As we conclude the business and tech week, I remember promising to tell you about how technology has kept my relationship going. At this point I am not so sure what you’re expecting but let me see if I can live up to your expectation…hehe.
A couple of weeks back a friend of mine and I decided to have a fling of sorts…we pretty much know each other’s “dark” side and by that I mean the things you NEVER would comfortably talk about with just about anyone. I am such a planner but I didn’t even give this any thought since it was more or less passing time. You know those people who you have in your life but no serious relationship is planned? That was us indeed.
As days went by, the communication became quite frequent. Did I mention proximity is not a thing on our side? We are so many miles a part😭, how we planned to do this, I really had no clue. Anyway, in came the frequent calling and texting to talk about anything and everything. Remember when I mentioned we’re friends? The friendship really grew to a point where we were in so much sync…I started freaking out!!! How do I tell him that I am really not cut out for casual relationships because I have to be sooo deliberate to keep my heart out of it which is so exhausting because my heart seems so nosy…always jumping in my business…yes I developed crazy feelings for him.
I have NEVER been a fun of long distance relationships because I’m a person who likes physical touch…have you met my family 👪? We are the hugging committee…haha. So us being far apart was draining me and I was not about to tell him how I felt over the phone. I can hardly handle face to face rejection, over the phone would rip me apart. So for fear of being rejected, I put a pin in my feelings. Little did I know that the human was also battling the same.
One time we are having our usual all over conversations and I mention to him some guy that was “shooting his shot” and he goes…”tell him you’re dating”. I first take a few seconds to breathe and so I ask; am I? The response I got after that I never expected buy definitely wanted to hear it. He said to me, “yes. We’re dating. I’m sorry I may not be so good with asking you to be my girlfriend but I thought all these frequent calls and texts would pass on that message.”
People! I hate reading between lines because apparently I suck at it🤷♀️ but this wasn’t the time for the girl child to act dumb. So I most definitely asked a few questions just to be sure we’re on the same page and then off started a relationship…a long distance one. My brain was fighting with my heart every single day, the fights were all around the fact that I can’t really handle a long distance relationship.
However, unlike Austin and Eunice (the current all time favorite love story on Afrobloggers platform), Prince charming and I have met, remember I told you we were friends before? So occasionally he will be in town and I will have to literally stop time so we can spend the little time he’s here together and then cry that he’s leaving and like pms, the cycle continues…
So here’s where technology comes in; the fact that we are able to email, text, have a WhatsApp video chat, text all the time on WhatsApp and then of course the daily phone calls. None of these was ever really my cup of tea because I seem to run out of patience sometimes, so long phone calls never ever made sense to me until now. It’s all I’ve got until the next couple of months when we see each other again😔. I wonder when technology will advance to a point where I can get a real hug…imagine hands coming out of our laptop to hug you…don’t mind me, I have a very visual crazy mind 🤦♀️
Anyway, if this happened to me 10 years ago I would say NO a million times. But i have found myself actually comfortable with my current setting because we both get to focus on work and on our individual selves. Being in a long distance relationship has taught me to cherish every moment but also to be a bit tech savy because sometimes network fails you and you have to do all you can to communicate.
So 🥂here’s to new things and to a unique love I have found in you my Prince Charming😍😍.
P.S: I love you 💌
#DAY 14/22 WINTERSBC2021
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